When religion becomes a dealbreaker

The original version of this post was submitted in congruence to Beyond The Hijab‘s blog series on the theme of: marriage. As a Malay Muslim woman, I acknowledge that although my freedom to marry a person of any ethnicity does not come with discrimination, our community has not however been able to accept the idea of an inter-religious marriage. We cannot seem to envision a home filled with love, care and mutual respect in an inter-religious/intra-faith household. So I wrote an essay about this, tapping on my own personal experience(s). 

Sadly, the catalyst for me to write this essay was based on my experience on the opposite side of the coin. Where I was coerced and manipulated to performing rituals in order to maintain and save my relationship with my previous partner. As the relationship drew to a close, it made me reflect on my time as the bully.

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How the role of Malay women has – or hasn’t – evolved

This was originally published in AMP’s bi-annual publication KaryawanI was lucky to have been asked to collaborate with my sister on writing this article, which is a topic that I hold closely to my heart. As we reflected on the massive changes and freedoms that we both enjoy now, versus our foremothers, we realized that there were still some stark similarities that are too often forgotten and easily dismissed. In this article, we question the static gender roles we have been subjected to and what we can do to overcome this.

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